Grief: 3 Tips to Remember…
Grief: 3 Tips to Remember…
Written By: Shaundtrya Ganasan, Licensed Counselor (KB11097)
Grief; often misunderstood by many. Are you feeling misunderstood or judged for still grieving? If so, you’re not alone. Grief is one of the most personal experiences you can go through, and yet it’s also one of the most misunderstood.
People around you may think that you “should be over it by now” or that you should grieve the way they expect. However, the truth is that grief looks and feels different for everyone, and that’s okay.
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Here are three tips to hold on to as you move through your own grieving process:
1. Grief isn’t linear.
Grief doesn’t follow a predictable path. Some days may feel lighter, like you can breathe again. Other days may feel harder and crushing, like the loss just happened yesterday. And sometimes, grief can show up on you out of nowhere, like a song, a place or a memory might hit you very, very hard.
On those heavy days, remember this: your feelings are valid. Just because you’re having a difficult day doesn’t mean you’ve gone backwards. It simply means you are human and your heart is still holding love for what you’ve lost.
2. Expression varies.
There isn’t a single “right” way to grieve. Some people cry openly and loudly. Others need silence. Some people will stay busy to distract themselves. Others talk about their loved ones at every opportunity.
Your way of grieving is yours, and it doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s. If you find comfort in tears, let them flow. When you need silence, give yourself that space. If keeping busy helps you cope, that’s okay too. What matters most is that you allow yourself to grieve in the way that feels true to you.
3. Healing takes time.
Grief has no timeline. There’s no finish line and no day when someone can tell you, “It’s over now.” Healing happens in its own time, and it’s important to be patient with yourself in the process.
It’s okay if your grief feels different from others around you. It’s okay if it takes longer than you expected. What matters most is that you treat yourself gently along the way. Be kind to yourself on the hard days and extend that kindness to others too, because grief touches everyone differently.
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A Final Reminder
Grieving differently doesn’t mean you’re grieving wrong. It means you’re human, carrying your loss in the way your heart knows how. The most important thing you can do during this time is to trust your process, show kindness to yourself and remember: your healing matters.
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