Getting Over a Breakup
Of course, we all want to find the one from the first try and spend the rest of our lives with that person. In life, unfortunately, we often have to go through multiple tries before we find our partner. This means that we all (or at least most of us) have faced a breakup at one point of our lives. Some breakups are harder than others but none of them are easy. So, we would like to offer you some tips on how to get over a breakup.
1. Allow yourself some time to grieve
You shared a big part of your life with that person so having a feeling of loss is a natural reaction. Don’t try to fight it, but rather acknowledge it.
Give yourself space to feel the way you feel.
2. Distance yourself
Whether it’s going through your ex’s social media, replying to his/her messages or calls or just looking at old pictures of “good times”, none of it serves you. Even if you’d like to stay friends with your ex in the future it is a good idea to distance yourself from him/her at least right after the breakup. It will give you space for your feelings and thoughts and will take away some pressure
3. Rely on your friends
Your social support is what can help you get through these trying times. Spend time with your friends to take your mind off of things. Share your struggles with them and tell them about small wins.
It is not a crime to have a good time and laugh genuinely even when life doesn’t go the way you want it to.
4. Take care of your mind and body
Now will be a good time to spend some time on yourself. Nourish your body with good food, start a new workout, read, attend lectures or even give them… The possibilities are endless. You can pick something that you wanted to do for yourself for a long time or maybe it could be something absolutely unexpected. Self-care (like mental, skin care, spiritual) also falls under this tip. Respect and love yourself and you will start healing from inside.
5. Don’t rush
This tip could be applied to many areas. Don’t rush the healing process with trying to get closure. “Last” conversations with your ex or thinking of what went wrong doesn’t actually give you closure. But time does, so be patient. Don’t rush to get into new relationships. This will rarely give you your true love and very often you can even hurt the other person. Know that there’s plenty more fish in the sea, but don’t rush to jump into that sea after a breakup. Lastly don’t rush to have only positive feelings about your ex. One day you will be able to forgive and remember the time you had together with warmth. However, if this doesn’t happen right away, don’t worry. You’ve been hurt and need some time to get over it.
The bottom line is that the best ways to cope with a breakup is time, self-care and social support. Even though sometimes these things seem impossible to do, if take little steps in that direction you will heal your wounds and get over your breakup.
Meanwhile, give yourself time, stay home and stay safe!